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Friday, May 21, 2010

Tears are the silent language of grief.
~Voltaire




As Daffy is a sign language interpreter, I thought the quote was appropriate.  We can all speak sign with my Ducky today.  My tank is brackish tonight from all the tears.  Not good for a pretty fantailed goldfish I tell ya!  We prefer ammonia to salt.

Many friends come and go in our lives.  We meet some that only share a moment.  We meet others who stay awhile and then move on.  We have others still, that are part of our lives from childhood forward.  Then we meet the few who touch our lives so deeply whether it is for a moment, an hour, a day, or a lifetime our lives are forever changed for knowing them.

When we are fortuitous enough to meet those few, we are better for it.  They bring out the best in us.  We bring out the best in them.

Having best gal pals is something that most women need to feel whole.  Everyone knows that girlfriends are the best.  There are many of us though who do not fit that bill.  We are different.  Intimidating to other women.  Fit in better with the boys.  Considered "just one of the guys", well at least to other girls.  (Note:  guys never really consider us just one of them.  Boobies ya know.)  

Anytatas, my BB chat group has blessed me with those best gal pal relationships that all of us never really had before.  A close knit group of women who share everything.  Sorrow, joy, tears, laughter, happiness and pain. There isn't a day that goes by that we don't talk and laugh and share our lives.  We are like a Virtual Sex in Many Cities, Real Housewives of Blogland Reality Show via Crackberry.  (Yes, it's as neurotic as you are envisioning, and then some.  But it's ours so shutyerpieholes.)

You all know that I am a movie quote freak.  Super Freak actually.  This is one of my favorites:

A fish may love a bird, but where would they live?
~Danielle De Barbarac (Drew Barrymore)

My heart is heavy, and I cannot express how deep my empathy for The Duck, her family and loved ones runs.  Please continue to pray for comfort and strength for them as they grieve the loss of a daughter, mother, sister, wife and friend.


There are two bodies — the rudimental and the complete ; corresponding with the two conditions of the worm and the butterfly. What we call "death," is but the painful metamorphosis. Our present incarnation is progressive, preparatory, temporary. Our future is perfected, ultimate, immortal. The ultimate life is the full design
"Mesmeric Revelation" 
 ~Edgar Allen Poe

29 comments:

Mrsblogalot said...

My heart is breaking for all of them.

singedwingangel said...

I have had them all on my mind for the last 3 days.. I so ish I could simply stand by her and hug her, tight, not letting go...

June said...

Love you Brandee.

Momma Fargo said...

Very nice tribute and honor to the Daffy. You are a great friend to her. She is well-loved in blogland and real life.

BigSis said...

My thoughts and prayers are with Daffy and her family.

Can I steal that button to post on my blog too?

Menopausal New Mom said...

Brandee, you brought tears to my eyes today. Thank you for writing this so we can all feel connected and supportive during this terrible time for Daffy and her family. Having been in Daffy's shoes myself, I am just heartbroken for them.

Hugs to you,
Deb

The Princess of Sarcasm said...

I'm looking for the Duck button to post on my blog. Who has it? This is just plain horrible for everyone involved.

Lee said...

I am so sad and this was a beautiful post. I miss all of you...

Tamara aka Cheapskate Mom said...

Brandee....your words...so moving, so true. I love my BB Bishes! I am broken for Daff today.

Quirkyloon said...

What a great BF you are! I'm terribly sorry to hear of the sad outcome for Daffy and her family.

All I can do is pray for them all to find strength amidst the tears.

~J said...

:(

This was so moving..you're a wonderful friend to Daffy.

I'm crushed for her.

Michelle Pixie said...

You are an amazing friend and we should all be so blessed! I am broken for Daffy and her family.

Busted Kate said...

This is beautiful, B. Brought tears to my eyes. I'm so honored to know all you women, you're amazing.

Lisa Marie said...

Very moving post.

Ian said...

:(

Buffee said...

I'm am at a loss for words. . . . I think you put everything perfectly!

I believe God places people/friends in our lives for these very reasons!

Love you sis!

The Blue Zoo said...

Aw, Mama B. We're all so sad for Daffy. This makes me want to drive to Idaho and give my own little sis a big hug. Ya know?

Salt said...

You are such an amazing friend, B. Duck is as lucky to have you as you are to have her.

This was beautiful. My heart is aching for her family.

Meeko Fabulous said...

It's just so sad.

SurferWife said...

Well put, girl. And I haven't watched Danielle De Barbarac in years! LOVED that movie.

Adoption of Jane said...

Its so sad, and all so fast blessings to their family. Is that the same medical problem Brett Michaels almost lost his life to recently?

Nancy C said...

Tears. You are so kind.

gayle said...

You have written such a sweet post!! Thank you for letting us all know. I am thinking and praying for her and her family!!

purseblogger said...

I am praying for Daffy and her family. My heart breaks for them. xoxo

Plantress said...

what a touching post. you are a great friend.
plantress.blogspot.com

Big Mama Cass said...

It's so horrible :(

Queen Bug said...

I was brought this way by Melissa from Day 2 Day. I am in tears and have everyone in my prayers. I donated to monkey and will donate to the scholarship when I get paid again. I have experienced loss myself and it brings it all back and hurts me all over again to see the family going through this. Here's a movie quote: "When God closes one door, somewhere he opens a window." (Old school, sound of music)

Unknown Mami said...

You are a good friend.

Powdered Toast Man said...

(Note: guys never really consider us just one of them. Boobies ya know. That was my favorite line. Ahhh boobies